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Your 11th Grader’s 11 Steps to Success

Your 11th Grader’s 11 Steps to Success

“Action expresses priorities.” ― Mahatma Gandhi. Junior year is here: the year that counts. Maybe your teen made mistakes, didn’t focus enough, experienced a few “blip” grades last year. All part of growing up. But now…it’s time to get serious. What does that mean, exactly? Be perfect? Get […]

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How Parents Can Launch Their Young Adult Children by Being, Not Doing

How Parents Can Launch Their Young Adult Children by Being, Not Doing

“Trying to force something is the best way to stop it happening.” -Indries Shah. As a college consultant, I am frequently struck by the fact that many parents who clearly love and want the best for their teenage or young adult children ironically seem to create rebellious, […]

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Adjusting to College Life: “Friendsickness”

Adjusting to College Life: “Friendsickness”

“Words are easy, like the wind; Faithful friends are hard to find.” – William Shakespeare. Your college freshman will make many new adjustments, from doing laundry to managing a heavy academic load independently. In this post, I would like to focus on one absolutely essential adjustment: establishing new social connections.

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College Family Weekends: Forever Jung

College Family Weekends: Forever Jung

“Growing up is a process, not an event.” -Paul B. Jamison. It was one of those crisp, breezy October Saturdays in the rolling hills of Pennsylvania, with the leaves just beginning to sport a bit of gold and copper under a cloudless cobalt sky. It was Family […]

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Accepting the Empty Nest

Accepting the Empty Nest

“Courage is the power to let go of the familiar.” -Raymond Lindquist. A few years back, I read a thought-provoking article in The New York Times by parenting expert Madeleine Levine, entitled “After the Children Have Grown.”  Since it is that time of year again, when parents are sending their […]

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Parents, Teens…and the Dance of College Applications

Parents, Teens…and the Dance of College Applications

Years ago, when I was studying group dynamics and family therapy at Columbia University Teachers College, I couldn’t get enough of the books by one of the institution’s most famous alums, Dr. Harriet J. Lerner. Her bestsellers include The Dance of Anger,  The Dance of Intimacy, and The Mother […]

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Honorable Adulthood

Honorable Adulthood

“…God willing, we might still have lived and loved together, and see our boys grown up to honorable manhood around us.” – Major Sullivan Ballou. September, 1990. Our son was six months old. My husband and I were engaged in Ken Burns‘ PBS documentary, The Civil War, whenever […]

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A College Consultant’s Christmas List 2012: Young People with a Personal Mission

A few years ago, I wrote a post called “A College Consultant’s Grown-Up Christmas List,” after the moving Amy Grant holiday song that is omnipresent on the radio this time of year. During a season that is always bittersweet for many reasons, I have decided it might […]

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Empty Nester? Get a Gig–with a New Attitude

An update of last year’s popular post. We Baby Boomers, the intensity generation, have hurled our hearts and souls into every life chapter. As the first generation to choose when to become parents, we became passionate parents, elevating parenting to the apex of Maslow’s Hierarchy, playing Mozart […]

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Teen-Parent Partnership: A New Paradigm for the College Process

Back in the day, many Boomers recall, applying to college was a simple, straightforward matter, which could easily be handled independently by a high school student, with Mom and Dad checking in at the end to ensure they could afford it. How the world has changed. Over the […]

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